Saturday, July 19, 2008

Happy Birthday, Madiba!

Yesterday, Nelson Mandela woke up and remembered that on this day, he was 90 years old.

Eighty-plus years ago, he was just a black kid in a racist country who lived in a small rural village that no-one had even heard of. He never looked special, really. Just regular, not too big, not too small, no distinguishing marks or features.

Yet this ordinary kid changed the world as we know it.

He fought for noble ideals, making enormous personal sacrifices. And he succeeded greatly. He won the Nobel Peace prize, and was on the cover of Time magazine five times, and all because he turned a major African country about-face from oppression to democracy with skill, love and genius. Everyone has heard of him. So, whenever I see his face gracing the cover of a newspaper or magazine, I search for the story written with cynicism, complete objectivity, and a little pessimism. As we all know, everyone has their supporters and their opponents, their champions and their naysayers. Well, I'm still looking.

Madiba Magic I guess, or perhaps just the presence of a great soul that no-one with honesty and journalistic integrity can deny.

This week I ripped out the Mandela pages from the Time that shows up in my mailbox every week.
Madiba is graciously photographed, radiating calm, self assurance, and the kind of dignity I strive to have one day. The accompanying article sets out to be objective, analytical, written by a seasoned senior editor, who worked with Mandela on his biography, A Long Road to Freedom. His love for this great man begins to peek through from the beginning, and by the end, is undeniable. Another life touched, it seems.

All around the country, there are celebrations, even a big party in England. There are websites. www.happybirthdaymandela.com. where 30 000 people from Tanzania, amongst others from every corner of the earth, wished him well personally. Celebrities, politicians, important folk. And housewives, bakers, electricians, teachers, bus drivers and children. Imagine that.
Take a look at the messages. They will move you. And hopefully, inspire you.

Inspiration for ordinary people, from ordinary towns, with ordinary families and ordinary lives.

Seems like ordinary has the potential to change the world, as we know it.

Sunday, July 13, 2008

The Breakfast Meeting.

My empty stomach dropped as I stared fixedly at the electronic red numbers counting down in the darkly lit and heavily insulated hotel elevator. It plummeted soundlessly from the sixty second floor down to zero.
The doors hummed shut on a steady sixty two, and then the numbers spun faster and faster until, seemingly giving up, and showing fifty five, forty two, thirty, twenty, eleven, nine, five, four, three, two, one and ping, the ground level.
I took a steadying breath and stepped out, adjusting to the hive of activity before me.

I glanced around the unfamiliar palatial lobby of this grand hotel in Georgia.
I did not consciously acknowledge the complicated, heavy chandeliers, Elton John-style flower arrangements, marble and velvet surroundings. Traditional super-luxuries designed to pamper the affluent Southern visitors.
I found my bearings, and headed for the morning dining room, tinkling with teacups, tiny silver spoons and murmured conversations. The smell of black coffee permeated the air, and made me feel unexpectedly optimistic. An inappropriate emotion, I thought, as I was meeting with a senior, black female member of parliament who refrained from even pretending to like me. My directive was to help her in most any way she needed me to on this particular trip abroad. This delegation of dignitaries from South Africa had set out on a study trip to parts of the United States, and wished to get a first world perspective on a number of similar issues arising at home.

She had married a prominent man of the people.
He was a folk hero, a soldier, a fighter, a charismatic leader.
He championed the poor, exploited, and most of all, the oppressed.
He was loved, and like most enduring folk icons, died young, violently and unjustly.
No-one had really heard of her.
She had three children, and carried an impressive last name on her shoulders. In the new regime, someone gave her a job. Quite a good one, actually. Perhaps she had fought in the back trenches, like most women. Perhaps her sacrifices, and fight for the struggle had merely gone unnoticed and unheralded. Maybe she had given it her all. I did not know.

I did know that I more than likely epitomized everything she had fought against, considered unjust, cruel, and oppressive.
I was young, blond, looked educated, and as though I had not struggled a day in my life. My notorious family name had been a pillar of apartheid, and had to be uttered when one was being either formal or unfriendly. And that was just at first glance.


I saw her sitting alone in a corner of the huge dining room, a generic coffee cup placed to one side and the hand written menu ignored. She peered closely at a notebook in front of her, and frowned in concentration. She sensed my recognition across the room and looked up at me in irritation. Her eyes narrowed as I approached.

I mentally thickened my pale skin, placed an objective, professional smile squarely on my face, and sat down opposite her when she gestured that I should sit down. We had both already decided to keep this meeting efficient so that it could be short.
She began running through her notebook page of key words, and sharply added pointed instructions as she listed her litany of directions for me for the week. I took notes, my neutral expression reflecting no surprise or disbelief when she demanded something unreasonable.

She spoke urgently, with unnecessary emphasis. Her conservative white blouse was buttoned up to the top, and her ethnic hair pulled back tightly into a small, wiry bun at the nape of her neck. It looked like she had resigned herself to a bad hair day. Her severe hairstyle emphasized her wide forehead, unplucked brows, and unexpected narrow mouth. The overall effect was vulnerable, unsophisticated and disconcerting. She wore no jewelery.

I put down my pencil, sat back in my plush chair and wished for more courage in a coffee cup. My fairy materialized, wearing a traditional waitress uniform and brandishing a heavy silver coffee pot like a regal hostess. She smiled at my grateful anticipation as I met her gaze, and wordlessly poured a steady stream of coffee into my cup.
My boss was still talking quickly, reiterating instructions I had already mentally planned and arranged.
The waitress stepped back, and I noticed her elaborately braided African-American hairdo. It hung down her broad back in ropes of colorful beads and stiff, straightened artificial curls. She boasted a womanly cleavage which looked as though it smelt warm and inviting. Her face was buffed and smooth, and her brows dramatically arched and delicate. Her face bloomed when she smiled. She was beautifully chocolaty.

"Where are y'all from?" she asked loudly and confidently. Perhaps our accents had intrigued her. I deferred to my boss, and did not respond immediately. She stopped mid sentence, looked up at the waitress for the first time, and replied with quiet venom.
"That is none of your business."

The waitress gaped like a plump goldfish, turned quickly and threaded her way quietly through the white linened tables. I was surprised and embarrassed. I felt my growing indignation flush my cheeks and I focussed on ending the meeting as soon as possible.
I was not hungry.

I wondered if I had identified more with the waitress than she had.


I left shortly thereafter, and began my day. In parting, my boss mentioned that she had a hair appointment first thing that morning, and would not be available for a few hours. She was off to the best African-American hair salon in Atlanta, Georgia for a new 'do.

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Freedom or Exploitation?

Two of the largest Internet Service Providers in the world, Verizon and Time Warner Cable have joined forces with Sprint, another giant wireless company in the United States, to eliminate access and storage of child pornography online.
They are putting aside their compulsive competitiveness, and have committed money and resources to stamping out the exploitation of our most fragile members of society.

It's a bold move, and over here, it's a first.

Whilst everyone publicly applauds this idea, I am always intrigued by the dissenters, the ones who protest for the protection of freedoms and other notions of this ilk.
Their fear of sounding like perverts is overwhelmed by their fear of losing some fundamental rights to expression, movement and speech.
To most of us, these are abstract ideas and don't pack a punch like explicit child pornography which makes every mother gasp with anxiety and horror, no matter how liberal or worldly.

In 1995, the South African Parliament tabled a bill that changed the regulation and definition of pornography in the New South Africa. It all began with a few controlling boards and bodies in the old apartheid days that needed to be reinvented and redesigned, and made fit and suitable for a spanking new democracy.
The Film and Publications Amendment Bill was born, and seeing that in this ideal new world every person could have their say, public hearings were arranged at parliament so that all interested parties could air their point of view and concerns.

The whole shebang became my first bill to guide through the entire parliamentary process.

Political party members huddled behind closed doors and discussed possible amendments and party policies.
Secret and meaningful glances and notes were exchanged in passages before our Committee met solemnly in dark, teak-and-leather boardrooms. The chairperson heading this group of serious politicians spoke with calm authority and suitable officiousness at all of these preliminary meetings. Political parties were asked to consider all input and submissions carefully, and to draft amendments to the old Act in a timely manner. Procedures, rules, regulations and guidelines were carefully covered and documented.

As for me, Mr Chairman confidently handed me all his correspondence, schedules and assorted documents, and made it all my problem with one winning smile. I was to schedule the public hearings, press releases, meetings, deliberations and all the logistics that were required for these. It was a public hot potato, but he knew I was up for the job he said.

My name and number was published as the contact person for all inquiries and information. Boy, oh boy. The smart man had shifted all the hoopla onto my unsuspecting shoulders, whilst the members of parliament prepared in earnest for this bill.

I got a nice big office with a lot of space and started collecting public opinion.
You can only imagine the volume of calls, faxes, petitions, letters, mail, and surprising office visits that came my way.

I scheduled an entire week of public hearings before the parliamentary committee.
Citizens literally got fifteen minutes of fame, and both left and right, conservative and liberal, jostled equally for the limelight.
I think I may have seen and heard it all that month.

Ultra conservative religious groups sent petitions and hand delivered them with vitriolic zealousness that was at times quite frightening. These pale men and women stood around in the hall outside my office peering anxiously over piles of documents and papers, nervously worried that they may inadvertently spot some real pornography and have to loosen their skinny ties. Their sour fear was awkward in the carpeted passages of our bustling, multi colored New South Africa government buildings. Nevertheless, they got a spot to say their say. So too the local artist who brought large examples of her erotic art into my office one busy Thursday afternoon.

For weeks I answered what seemed like hundreds of calls a day. Each one, carefully planned by the caller to achieve maximum satisfaction. I heard verbosely angry, businesslike calm, emotionally wretched, esoterically nonsensical, religiously outraged, friendly, flattering and cajoling.
There were religious groups of all persuasions, performance artists, the gay community in its many forms, Hustler and Playboy magazine dudes, prisoners, and many extremely odd people.
Every one of them had a point of view, opinion and a strong yen to state their case.

They sat all day and waited for their number to come up during the hearings. I herded them in and out, took their notes, tried to calm their nerves and strong emotions and once even frog marched a tiny man off the stage who inappropriately dissolved into a tirade after his fifteen minutes were up.

Democracy in action. The chairperson always in control, running the show and asking relevant questions. Astonishing mounds of information and opinions. And always, an outstanding lunch served at noon. I quickly learned that this was essential for goodwill, progress and general happiness. I skimped on other things to stay on budget but made sure there was extra dessert.

Amendments were drafted, negotiated and voted upon. A new Bill was submitted to the Houses of Parliament and adopted.
The new Film and Publications Act kicked in in 1996.
Many people don't like it. They say that it infringes on freedoms of speech, expression and movement.
But it distinctly bans child pornography and protects the vulnerable members of our society, and for that, every South African mother, black or white, liberal or conservative, is grateful.