Howard Herships and Steve Kirsch.

What a cringe-inducing story I read in the newspaper this week. I literally felt ashamed for the two people involved. Two silver-haired gentlemen in my area, a Mssrs Kirsch and Herships are fighting a prolonged, expensive three year battle in the courts over a $650 scratch on Mr Kirsch's Toyota RAV 4.
The one guy is super wealthy, and the other a poor veteran, but also a legal know-it-all. Fifty three court appearances so far. They say it is a matter of principle. No, it's not. It's about each one's individual principle. It's about being right and the other guy being wrong. They are both smugly photographed, looking awfully happy about the publicity. How utterly embarrassing. What a legacy these guys are creating. Expensive wasted public resources, court time and public services aside, these pillars of society are behaving like spiteful children.
Imagine if instead of behaving like some, they actually helped some instead. I'd love to waltz their petty mature faces down to my local elementary school where they could use some of their collective superior skills and copious wealth to provide breakfast for the kids who come to school hungry, a tangible problem visible on the faces of our bobble-headed little children. I see these kids every day, and their numbers are growing. Shameful, I say.

When I was a kid, I distinctly recall the notion of life not always being fair. Remember being punished with your siblings for a wrongdoing when you truly had nothing to do with it? Parents casually grouped kids together and everyone was liable and punished for pranks and transgressions en masse. And they were not interested in your protestations. Dang, the unfairness of it all stung like hell. But, we survived and moved on and never really held any grudges. It was all just part of life. One never knew -- perhaps the innocent party would be someone else next time..... Raucous classrooms were punished together, no explanations allowed. It didn't matter who was right or wrong.
We learned that life was sometimes fair, and sometimes not. That sometimes being right prevailed, and sometimes it just did not. We learned that being right and losing did not mean the end of the world. We learned that life did, in fact, go on or more importantly, move on.
I once drafted a report for a superior at work, who never bothered to read it, changed the name on the bottom to her own, and submitted it to a parliamentary committee for consideration in the National Assembly. Right, no. But yet, knowing that unfair things could happen to me, I never reacted immediately in anger and indignation. Instead, it gave me that breather to think. And then act smartly instead of in retaliation. Think of the times you have given yourself this gift. This is the kind of thing we need to teach our children.

Mr Kirsch has a terminal disease. Any elementary school kid can tell you how hollow his wished-for victory will feel to him on his deathbed when time has run out and he spent so much of his life energy on proving someone else wrong, purely for the sake of it. What a disappointment to himself and his family.